I Need Some Advice
I have a girlfriend that is pregnant. In fact, she's only three weeks ahead of me in the baby baking department. She already has a two and a half year old son, and a husband who I love, but who I think is a bit of a suck.
When she was delivering her son, her husband Drew didn't want to be in the room with her, but he insisted that if he had to be there, that he just wanted to stay up near her head and didn't want to have to "see" anything. All was going fine until one of the nurses asked him to hold Tracy's foot while she was pushing (apparently she had to grab something, or leave the room or something like that). Long story short, Drew saw some stuff that traumatized him. He said he refused to be in the room should they ever have another baby.
Now, about a week before I found out I was pregnant Tracy asked me if I would be her coach through labour because she wanted me to be the one in the room with her if Drew refused. I didn't hesitate because I consider it to be an honour, and uh, hellooooo, girl bits are girl bits, and I know what goes on down there.
So here is my dilemma...considering I'll be over 8 months pregnant myself (if she doesn't go in to labour earlier than that) do you really think it's a good idea? I mean, if she has a long labour am I going to be much use or am I going to be totally wiped out from being on my feet? And even though I've seen births before, and my plan is not to be directly at the baby's port of entry, do you think it will freak me out? Maybe so bad that I will decide NOT to give birth to my baby? Obviously I don't have a choice about that - but you know what I mean.
Since she found out I was pregnant she has told Drew that he needs to be in the room with her - but he's freaking out and really doesn't want to. I've offered that if Drew wants to be there for the "pre-pushing" part, then I would come in for the actual labour.
So I need to know - am I crazy for still planning on doing this? I really want to support my friend...but...