I have attempted to write this post many times before, but struggle with it continuously because my mom and I have a very "passionate" relationship.
For much of my life, my mom and I have existed in a perpetual state of stubbornness and haughtiness towards each other. Now, don't get me wrong, we love each other very much and are happy a lot too (especially since I moved out at 18), but we argue...a lot. And neither of us back down...ever. It can be quite frustrating - especially for the men in our lives.
My mom is an Aries - the bull - for those of you that don't know your astrology. I, obviously, am a Gemini - the twins - or split personality.
My mom brings out the asshole twin in me, and I bring out the bull in her. The thing with our relationship is, when it's good - it's very good. And when it's bad - it's fireworks kind of bad.
When we are getting along we laugh and carry on, once in a I can get her to goof off, and she occasionally still chases me up the stairs pinching my butt while I scream and laugh. Those times are great, when we're both relaxed and happy and can actually enjoy each other.
But when one, or both (which is a very scary situation) of us is feeling bitchy, we are vicious. I think part of the reason is that my dad and brother don't call my mom on anything. When she is cranky, or miserable, or wrong about something, they just let her be and let her pretend that she was right, even though she was wrong. I don't. I will confront her if I feel she is out of line, usually it starts off calm, with me trying to explain what I think, but quickly escalates into yelling, on both our parts. This always pisses her off, and usually ends up with her stomping out of the room and pouting for a couple days. Yes, days.
Lately things have been great - when we go home or they come into the city she's usually excited to see me. We've been fighting a lot less this year. Hmm, now that I think about it, we've been fighting a lot less since my baby mess at the end of last year. Maybe that scary situation has forced us to appreciate each other more.